From someone who wondered why people have kids to someone who wonders why didn’t I have one before ? Motherhood has changed me a lot in the past three years after becoming a mom.
It as if your whole world changes and more importantly who you are, what you believe in, what you like, how you look like and everything else changes. No wonder people say that being a mom is like being reborn.
Its difficult to put into words how I have changed after becoming a mommy but when Pooja told me about this Wonderful Blog Train she was hosting on my favorite topic. I wanted to give it a try.
Thanks Misha from Freshly Baked Head to give me a hand to board the Train.
So here are few points I could collate to talk about How motherhood has changed me or my perspective towards life
I make a conscious effort to not judge people
Only the wearer know where the shoe pinches.
I had heard this many times. But this is something I have become much more conscious of after becoming a mom. I used to unknowingly judge other people specially moms before I was a parent.
But now I actually make an effort to not judge people. We can never know what are their situations, what is driving them to do things they do.
Of course every mom wants best for her kid. So there is no point judging.
I have come to realize that one of the most underrated virtue in today’s world is – Kindness. Wish to see more kindness in the world and want to be more kind to others.
Have become very emotional
Oh yes! That is a big change in me. I have definitely developed some new tear glands.
Before becoming a mom, I used to wonder why moms cry so much in movies. But I am exactly in the same situation right now.
And I am accepting it here and saying this out loud for all moms who are reading it – You are not alone.
If you are reading this and have become much more emotional or feel like crying at small things, then don’t worry there are other moms just like you (including me) and in the same boat.
Have gone from size small to size Large
There was a time when I could eat anything and still remain the same size. I could buy clothes without worrying how will they LOOK on ME. Gone are those days !
I had become huge during pregnancy, after that I have lost some weight but apart from tell tale signs on my body of an operation, I have changed physically in a lot more ways.
And to be honest I have accepted the new me.
It took me time to get used to being larger than I was. To understand what clothes to buy now (which by the way i am still figuring out). But I feel all this does not have as much meaning that it had then.
My habits have changed dramatically
Earlier I used to eat to live. And I am not sure what exactly has changed and why ? But I have become a foodie.
Before becoming a mom, I used to sleep when given a chance, Now whenever I get few minutes, I think about what to write. I have actually cut down on my sleeping time so that I can do other things that I enjoy more.
Another thing that has changed is, I have started looking at food in terms of its healthiness quotient. Not that I don’t eat unhealthy. Of course at times I do! but I am just mindful of the fact that I am eating unhealthy.
I do not want to watch news
Nowadays, watching news reminds me what a grim world we are living in. There are crimes against kids – rape, sexual exploitation, murder, kidnapping and what not.
Before becoming a mom, these news did not impact me much. I used to be sad but not to an extent that I am now. Now every time I open a newspaper, I get scared for my kid.
I am scared when I send him to his playschool. I wonder where should I relocate to in order to give him an environment that is safe. Should I go outside India ? Even if I do that – we will still be outsiders on a foreign soil. What should I do to give him a pollution free environment? What can I do to feed him food that is unadulterated ?
These questions did not bother me till 3 years back. But nowadays, these questions are always lingering at the back of my mind.
Its as if my life and my heart is outside my body.back to menu ↑
Have learnt a lot and am still learning
I have read and learnt more in the last few years than I ever did. After becoming a mom you are a continuous learning curve. As your kid learns new things so do you.
I have analysed, researched, googled and experimented with almost everything you could think of after becoming a mom,
For my son – Why is my baby crying ? What can I do for his over all growth and development ? What books to buy and how to buy books ? What toys to introduce and when ? What activities and crafts I can do to engage him ? What recipes to make ? How to handle toddler tantrums ?
For blogging – How to start a blog ? What is WordPress ? What is self hosting ? How to submit my site to google ? How to maintain my blog ? Various WordPress plugins, social media and a lot more.
And with whatever I learnt, I continued trying to help people by sharing my experiences either via by writing blogs or answering their queries on my Facebook group on Parenting and Blogging or in any other way I can think of. So I can definitely say I have become much more helpful than I ever was.back to menu ↑
Honed multiple new skills
After becoming a mom I have started multi-tasking in ways that I never knew existed. With a toddler, a job and a passion of blogging I need to manage my time very well to be able to do multiple things.
Another skill that I have learnt recently is negotiation.
Babies and toddlers are the best managers I have seen in my life. I have done much more work than I ever did in office that too in exchange of a smile and a hug 🙂 ..
I have reconnected with myself
I have reconnected with myself after becoming a mom.
I had forgotten how much I liked writing while I was in school, had forgotten my love for plants and flowers and did not have time for painting and crafting.
Now I have started a blog where I write about whatever I learn during this journey of life, have my own space of green and flowers in my balcony, have a shelf full of crafts and activities that we (me and my toddler) do at home, and have a great family where we are creating memories everyday.
I have made multiple new friends who actually are my support group for anything and everything.back to menu ↑
Have learnt to live and experience life
Before becoming a mom I was going to office, delivering multiple projects for my company, at times working on the weekends or after office hours. Of course I was travelling and doing other things but I actually believed that going to office and working was my life.
Even when I was expecting, my main worry was how will I spend time while I am on maternity leave ? And as a result had thought of starting a business or doing something different. I had actually told my manager that I will be back in 3 months.
And Do you know when did I rejoin office ? AFTER 11 MONTHS and that too part time.
I love seeing my son grow and take pride in each and every milestone or accomplishments 🙂 ..
After becoming a mom I realized that going to office is a part of my life and I have a life and a world beyond that.
I have become a better version of myself
I have become much calmer, more peaceful, accepting and much happier than I ever was. I have discovered a ‘new me’ who has loads of patience (as my husband reminds me – please note this patience is reserved only for my son).
Being a mom has definitely made me a better version of myself. I am a happy mom who will not have my life in any other way.
That was my little piece on How I think I have changed after being a mother. There are many more moms who are sharing their stories.
I am part of this blog train started by Pooja Kawatra of Mums & Babies and she has networked to bring together 41 moms across the GLOBE. (Meet the 41 moms here. Pooja has also shared her own perspective on this here.
Now I would like to invite Udita (one of my favorite authors on our site, a working mom, believer and writer. She shares her parenting stories @ withlovezuzu. I am sure you will love her blogs as much as I do) to write about her motherhood journey.
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