Let’s Listen and Talk, So They Talk and Listen


Few tips on how to talk to kids so that they listen and talk

In these times of super busy life where both parents are working hard and the family size is shrinking; one grievance, as a counselor I hear the most is the lack of time for kids.
Managing jobs, household chores, kids’ studies, extra-curricular activities and socializing, parents are left with very less “quality” time to spend with kids.
And as these kids enter teenage, their priorities change… they want more freedom and more “me-time” and the biggest complaint we, as parents of teenagers have is, they don’t listen.

However, we as parents need to do a reality-check. Spending time with our kids can be gratifying for both parents and kids. By doing that, not only are we able to gain insight into their lives, understand their issues and help resolve their problems, we can also establish importance of family values and inculcate a sense of belongingness.

Keeping a few points in mind, we can talk to kids so that they listen and talk:

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 Help your kids deal with their feelings

  • Listen with full attention – keeping your laptops and mobile phones completely off radar
  • Acknowledge with words and not nods and gestures – it’s more comforting
  • Help them name their feelings – name them to tame them

Engaging cooperation

  • Give some responsibilities from daily household chores
  • Involve kids in decision-making e.g. buying a car, planning a holiday, etc.
  • Appreciate the effort
  • Clear instructions are very important – e.g. “pour yourself some milk and keep it back in the fridge, because if not kept back, milk goes sour”

Find Alternatives to punishment

  • Point out a way to help – explain clearly
  • Express your feelings – without making the kids feel guilty
  • Give the kids a choice – ask what they would want as penance
  • Allow the child to experience the consequences of his/her actions

Encourage Autonomy

  • Let the children make choices
  • Show respect for their struggles
  • Lead them to give answers
  • Encourage them to share
  • Give them hope

Praise

  • Describe what you feel – e.g. “it’s a pleasure to walk into your tidy room”
  • Describe what you see – e.g. neatly lined books/ clean bed, etc
  • Give words to your description – e.g. “I am proud of the your organizational skills.”
  • Let children over-hear when you speak positive about them

Encourage

  • Lead them to situations where they can see themselves positively in a different way
  • Model the behavior you desire to see
  • Be a storehouse for your kids’ special moments
  • Loving mother with daughter

Our children know us and trust us. They learn from us. They look to us as role models. Children’s values, their habits, their likes and dislikes are most influenced by us as parents and its true that these qualities that will determine how successful children will be in school and in life.

Find ways to spend time, lots of undivided attention time, with your children.

“Speak with them, spend time with them and understand who they are – these are the keys for better relationship between parents and children.”

Remember the three T’s à “Time + Talk + Togetherness” is the Super Mantra.

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Dipti is a Masters in Emotional Intelligence and NLP and is certified under ANLP Board. She has also trained in Effective Parenting under ANLP Board. She is a SQA & NABET certified Trainer in Life Skills and a trained Image Consultant under the Conselle Institute, USA. She is also pursuing her M.A. in Psychology from IGNOU. She is an expert storyteller, and imbibes stories, activities and NLP Tools in her trainings to make them more interactive than theoretical. Her areas of specialization are: Emotional Intelligence, Effective Parenting, NLP Quantum Learning, Customer Management, Inter-Personal Relationships, Visual Merchandising, Conflict Management, etc. She can be reached at: +91 95996 79960 or dipti@imageditors.in This blog was first published on www.imageditors.in.

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